Something feels off, even if everything looks perfect on paper. We have hardened ourselves to survive in a world that rewards constant doing, while our feminine essence quietly fades. This article is a journey back—to the body, to the womb, to the quiet, powerful wisdom of feminine energy.

Healing the over-masculinized paradigm

Many of us feel it, and often without being able to describe it exactly or understand its origin. We have done everything right; we checked all the boxes. On paper, our reality may appear successful, but internally, we feel completely drained, as if the life force has left us. There is physical exhaustion, emotional fatigue, a general feeling of a lack of pleasure and vitality, a sense of rigidity, tension, and hardness. 

The truth is, we have hardened our way through life to the point where we live in bodies that are no longer comfortable. Tensions are an integral part of our daily lives, and our sensuality feels like a distant memory. If you are feeling this way, it is important to recognize that it is not a normal state, even if the majority of women around you might feel similarly. Just because this experience is common does not mean it is normal. What you are experiencing is the imbalance we feel when our feminine energy is absent from our lives.

In today's world, most women predominantly operate from a masculine energy. Particularly those who are established in their careers, have largely lost connection with their feminine energy, allowing their masculine energy to take the lead. This shift is influenced by several factors, one of the most apparent being the expectations placed on ourselves. The professional landscape overemphasises masculine energy traits, where hustle culture thrives. This culture promotes the idea that one must be efficient all the time, year-round, without breaks or a natural rhythm, all in pursuit of meeting targets and deadlines. This relentless quest for efficiency and constant optimisation can push women away from a harmonious balance of feminine and masculine energies. While there is nothing inherently wrong with utilising masculine energy, relying solely on it—while neglecting the feminine— leads to significant suffering. The longer this imbalance persists, the more pronounced the discomfort becomes. 

This article focuses on women, but it is essential to recognise that hustle culture can be detrimental for everyone. However, we must acknowledge that feminine energy has been neglected and undervalued in our culture. 

The flow of feminine

Hustle culture extends beyond simply achieving goals and optimising performance; it reflects our collective disconnection from both the energy of the earth and natural cycles. This disconnection likely indicates a loss of confidence in the fundamental feminine energy, often referred to as shakti, and in our connection with the earth.

If we examine nature, we quickly recognise that it operates in cycles. No plant or animal blooms or produces fruit all year round; constant activity and productivity are not the norm. Instead, we see periods of high activity followed by phases of calm and rest—this cyclical pattern is evident across all living things. So, why is our professional culture based on laws that don't exist anywhere in nature? How is it that even in our private lives, we are saturated with messages of productivity and self-improvement?

The standard message is that just being is not enough. We have become products, requiring constant optimisation, and increasingly so in all aspects of our lives, including our personal lives.

What we have entirely forgotten as a collective is the power of leading from the feminine. When faced with problems or challenges, we tend to act and do as much as possible. Leading from the feminine is not quite the same thing. It is a different, non-linear form of leadership. That is the magic of the feminine: you can also make progress by being.

We also move forward with our projects by taking time for ourselves, to recharge and let ourselves be. We move forward because the earth, our intuitions, our feelings and our bodies guide us. It may not be linear, it may be very calm at times, but it is powerful. In a society that has indoctrinated us to believe we must always do more to achieve more, many of us have lost sight of the fact that quantity is not the only metric that matters. Power counts even more. And when a woman returns to her feminine centre and begins to lead from the feminine, she reconnects with power. She returns to her connection with her body, her sensuality, and therefore with the living. And in the living, in the connection to the earth, there is ancestral wisdom and guidance.  A woman in her feminine energy knows precisely when to act, or when to reinforce her centre and nurture her body.

When our wombs lead

One of the tragedies of our society is that most people have a limited connection with their bodies and tend to live in their minds. There are many reasons for this disconnection. Firstly, there is a cultural aspect in societies that prioritise mental processes. Secondly, people tend to stay in their heads when their bodies do not feel safe. Trauma and chronic stress are two factors that can make it uncomfortable, if not impossible, to inhabit the body and experience body sensations and emotions fully. 

Leading from the feminine involves reclaiming our connection to our bodies. Gradually, we become more aware of our sensations and emotions, as well as our connection to the earth. Living disconnected from the land is inherently stressful, while the energetic support of the earth is soothing. And, as we progress along the path of embracing the feminine, we discover that we can literally lead from our womb.

When we begin to lead from our womb and become energetically aware of it, the changes we experience are magical. We reconnect with the understanding that, as women, we are biologically designed to give birth—not only to children but also to many other creations. We can bring forth creative projects, art, objects, books, and businesses. We can also give birth to ourselves, allowing us to become new, more vibrant versions of who we are. 

We are inherently made to create, and when this creation springs from our womb, we tap into our natural power.

For instance, if we decide to write a book using our masculine energy, we might plan out chapters, select a topic, organise the content, and set fixed times for writing. We would approach the project with structure and order. In contrast, when we use our feminine energy, sticking to a strict schedule may become challenging.

Instead, inspiration will flow naturally, reflecting our innate creativity. We will sense in our bodies that we can complete the project, even if we cannot see every step in the process. The project will follow a more organic rhythm, which may include moments of pause. This is perfectly fine because those pauses don't diminish our power; they actually nourish it.

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 FAQ: Leading with feminine energy

1. What does it mean to lead with feminine energy?

   Leading with feminine energy means leading from the body, intuition, and presence rather than constant doing. It’s about being, feeling, and letting inspiration guide action, allowing projects and creations to flow naturally.

2. How does feminine energy differ from masculine energy?

   Masculine energy focuses on planning, structure, efficiency, and results. Feminine energy moves in cycles, guided by intuition, emotions, and the wisdom of the body. Both energies are necessary, but leading solely from masculine energy can create stress and disconnection.

3. Why do many women lose connection with their feminine energy?

   Many women operate in masculine energy to meet societal and career expectations. Hustle culture rewards constant doing, efficiency, and productivity, while neglecting natural cycles, rest, and embodiment, which disconnects women from their feminine essence.

4. What are the signs that feminine energy is missing in life?

   Physical exhaustion, emotional fatigue, tension, rigidity, and a sense of lost pleasure or vitality are signs. Women may feel drained, disconnected from their bodies, sensuality, or creative power.

5. How can women reconnect with their feminine energy?

   By reclaiming connection to the body, womb, and earth, practising presence, feeling, intuition, and allowing pauses and natural rhythms in daily life. Creativity and projects can then flow from inspiration rather than being constrained by strict schedules.

6. Why is balancing feminine and masculine energy important?

   Relying solely on masculine energy can lead to burnout and disconnection from the body and inner guidance. Balancing both allows women to act effectively while staying connected to intuition, creativity, and natural cycles.